Your Perfect 'Type'?

Is There a Perfect Match For My Personality?

There is a strong link between personality 'type' and relationship satisfaction. Sharing the same personality 'type' often allows for greater communication and this is perhaps the single most important component of a satisfying relationship. Individuals of the same or similar 'type' often find it easier to 'get' one another.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator personality assessment tool allows individuals to discover their unique personality 'type'  and the 'type' of their intimate partners. As mentioned in earlier articles, What is an MBTI® Personality Assessment and How Will It Help Me? ,  'personality type' is determined by having individuals provide their best guess at self-reporting their 'type' and by answering an online questionnaire. Personality 'types' are represented by 4 letters which represent preferred ways of interacting with our world. Couples can share some, none or all 4 preferences.

Who's with Whom?

Quite often the more preferences shared by a couple, the easier it can be to communicate. Shared preferences are reported by Tieger and Tieger as follows:

• 10% of couples share all 4 preferences (same personality 'type')
• 20% of couples share 3 preferences
• 35% share only 2 preferences ( most common)
• 25% share only 1 preference
• 10% have no preferences in common

What About Opposites Attract?

The old concept the 'opposites attract' is often true, especially when it comes to our love relationships. People are often attracted to their opposite. This seem to be particularly true when it comes to the Extraversion/Intraversion preferences and the Judging/Perceiving preferences. It would appear that we are naturally attracted to individuals who are somewhat different from ourselves in these personality areas. It is almost as if we feel 'rounded out' by partnering with our opposite. Each of the partners supplying the strengths that the other is missing.

So Why Does My Opposite Drive Me Crazy?

Well, it appears that while we are attracted to opposites in some aspects of personality, we are most attracted to those who have similar ways of observing and collecting information from the world around them(Sensing/Intuition) as well as those individuals who make decisions in a similar fashion (Thinking/Feeling). These dichotomies are  like the cornerstones of communication. They represent how we understand the world, formulate and communicate our thoughts, move towards conclusions and make decisions. It is no wonder then, that sharing these aspects of 'personality type'  might prove beneficial.

Are We Doomed If We Don't Share Enough Preferences?

Of course not! Still, it shouldn't come as a great surprise to anyone that individuals who report having  successful relationships often do share the same letter preferences for collecting information and making decisions. These individuals feel on the same 'wave-length' and often do settle down together. However, that does NOT mean that individuals with fewer or no preferences in common can't still have great relationships. What is truly of paramount importance is a willingness to understand your partner's needs, as well as your own, and to make a concerted and caring effort to communicate these needs in ways that each personality 'type' can understand. Communication might require more effort, but it is never impossible when partners make it a priority.

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Relationships and Personality

How Can MBTI® Help My Relationships?

Whether you are just starting out in a new relationship or have been in a long-standing relationship, an MBTI personality assessment is extremely helpful in creating an understanding of what you need in a relationship for it to be fulfilling. An MBTI personality assessment will point out your personality similarities, differences and basic natures. We are not all the same! Understanding one another ALWAYS helps. Many people, after having learned more about themselves and their partners, are able to determine how best to improve their communication styles; help heal past misunderstandings; correct detrimental patterns of behaviour; or at the very least, move forward with their eyes wide open.

My Partner is from Another Planet- The Gender Debate and MBTI

There's no denying that men and women are different. Some women do fit the stereotype of being sensitive, emotional, nurturing and open, just like some men fit the male stereotype of being tough, strong, emotionless and competitive. These differences can create barriers to good communication which is the leading cause of relationship conflicts, resulting in frustrations between partners. However, research has shown that only 30-40 percent of the population is represented by these stereotypes. The other 60-70 percent of the population is not accurately described by these gender stereotypes. Hmmm.

Not convinced? Consider same sex partnerships. Shouldn't they understand each other easily and have very few communication difficulties?

So if it isn't gender that accounts for most relationship challenges, what is it?

 

Way Beyond Gender

You guessed it... Personality type! So many of our differences can be attributed to personality type. We have different energy levels; structure our lives differently; gather information in different ways; and, make decisions using our unique styles. We move through the world in a way that is most comfortable for us. This might be similar or very distinctly different than our partner's approach. Our personalities are made up of fundamental characteristics that impact the way we interact and communicate in our relationships. It goes WAY beyond gender.

Rather than relying on gender stereotypes to explain our relationship challenges, personality type helps create a clearer picture of each individual and what their motivations are.

Is There a Perfect Personality Match For Me?

 

Are there personality combinations that will ensure a successful relationship? Are some types more naturally suited to each other? Can opposites stay together? You would think that if you shared the same personality type as your partner that your relationship would be a resounding, long-term success with both partners happily skipping off into the sunset together. Conversely, you might assume that having the opposite personality type to that of your partner, would  mean a relationship full of struggles and unhappiness. Interestingly, this may or may not be the case. Sometimes sharing the exact same personality type with your partner can present its own set of challenges in that both partners would have very similar strengths and very similar weaknesses. Bonding over the similarities is easy....covering the bases with shared weaknesses can be problematic.

Now What?

The bottom line is that understanding your personality type and the personality type of your partner, will give you a much better chance of creating a happy, successful relationship that provides both partners with what they need to feel fulfilled. It is also important to remember that any two people, regardless of their personality types can still have a great relationship. The key to success, is understanding one another. This is where an MBTI assessment becomes an invaluable tool.

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

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We Can All Get a Little Lost.

Does this resonate with you? It does for many of my clients.

"I felt very emotional reading my MBTI report. There I was, encapsulated in a few pages! Things I had forgotten about the 'real' me, things I had suppressed or ignored in order to adapt, were staring me right in the face. It was like saying 'Hello' to ME again and it was extremely powerful!"

To book an appointment with Arlene contact:

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Be Who You Are and Do What You Love

Part 2

Your Personality and Finding the Right Career

How Do I Find the Best Career for Me?

As mentioned in the last  article, the secret to career satisfaction is becoming aware of the natural gifts inherent in your unique personality, and finding a job that lets you use those gifts often. That is why learning about your personality type is an integral part of your career search.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator® personality assessment tool has helped millions of individuals discover themselves, appreciate their innate strengths, and become aware of their possible blind spots. This invaluable information allows individuals to seek out jobs that best match their personalities.

 If you are in the right job, you should:

•          Look forward to your job

•          Feel energized by your work

•          Feel respected and appreciated for your contributions

•          Enjoy and respect your colleagues

•          Feel optimistic about your future

So, unless we share similar personality types, work that you find enjoyable is likely to have a very different, maybe even opposite effect on me. Instead of being energized by the same job, one individual might feel stressed and suffer burnout because they aren’t able to use their innate gifts regularly.

If you are tired of climbing uphill day in and day out at your present job, and are thinking about a career change, or just want to understand yourself better, consider a personality assessment with a Arlene Clark-Brown, qualified to administer MBTI® personality tool since 2007.

Look for upcoming articles by Arlene Clark-Brown, MBTI Administrator, on: Personality and Relationships; Personality and You; Personality and Parenting; Personality and Stress Management; and, Personality and Your Communication Style.

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

info@thesdrc.com       613-837-9025

www.integralhealthclinic.com     613-241-0005

 

Be Who You Are and Do What You Love

Your Personality and Finding the Right Career

How Do I find the Best Career For Me?

The secret to career satisfaction lies in doing what you enjoy most. Many of us become stuck in jobs that we feel we ought to do, often as a result of well-intentioned, but misguided, advice from school counselors, parents, teachers and friends. There is a huge correlation between personality type and career satisfaction. As a general rule, the more aspects of your personality you match to your work environment, the more satisfied you’ll be with your career.

The right job enhances your life. It is fulfilling because it supports the most important aspects of your personality by letting you utilize your innate strengths in ways that come naturally to you, and rarely requires you to do things you don’t do well. Different jobs and in fact, different aspects of jobs, satisfy different types of people. You might be in the right field but the wrong end of it.

Since the right job is dependent on all the elements of your personality type, figuring out who you are and what ‘turns your crank’ is the first step. Recognizing and understanding your personality type can change the way you see yourself which in turn affects everything you do and every aspect of your life including career choices.

For over 50 years, career counsellors and human resource specialists have been using the Myers Briggs Type Indicator® personality tool to help individuals discover their innate gifts and possible blind spots so that they may seek out careers that will allow them to GO WITH THEIR STRENGTHS. If you are tired of swimming against the current and would like to find a job that is more in tune with your natural abilities, or if you have just started on a pathway to greater self-awareness, consider taking the MBTI personality assessment with Arlene.

Look for upcoming articles by Arlene Clark-Brown, MBTI Administrator, on: Career; Personality and Relationships; Personality and You; and Personality and Parenting.

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

info@thesdrc.com     613-837-9025

www.integralhealthclinic.com     613-241-0005

New Year, New Career, New Life

At a Turning Point in Your Work?

Thinking of a Career Change?

What better time than now, to get organized for the New Year with a new career.  Set yourself up for moving forward in 2014, by booking your MBTI® personality assessment with Arlene Clark-Brown. Arlene guides individuals on a pathway to self- discovery and positive change using the Myers Briggs Type Inventory personality tool. Specializing in career and couples counselling, Arlene has found the MBTI invaluable in helping her clients to recognize their strengths, be cognizant of areas for potential improvement and adjust lifestyles and careers to be more in sync with their true selves.

Maybe you are a student about to choose your first important job, or perhaps you are just re-entering the workplace after an absence, or it could be that you are dissatisfied with your job and believe there must be a better alternative. Whatever your reasons for considering a career change, MBTI can help you discover the ingredients needed to satisfy your personality type in the workplace. By unlocking the secrets of your personality type you can find a truly fulfilling job that enhances your life. Stop ‘swimming against the current’! It’s much more enjoyable to ‘go with the flow!’

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

info@thesdrc.com     613-837-9025

www.integralhealthclinic.com     613-241-0005