Relationships and Personality

How Can MBTI® Help My Relationships?

Whether you are just starting out in a new relationship or have been in a long-standing relationship, an MBTI personality assessment is extremely helpful in creating an understanding of what you need in a relationship for it to be fulfilling. An MBTI personality assessment will point out your personality similarities, differences and basic natures. We are not all the same! Understanding one another ALWAYS helps. Many people, after having learned more about themselves and their partners, are able to determine how best to improve their communication styles; help heal past misunderstandings; correct detrimental patterns of behaviour; or at the very least, move forward with their eyes wide open.

My Partner is from Another Planet- The Gender Debate and MBTI

There's no denying that men and women are different. Some women do fit the stereotype of being sensitive, emotional, nurturing and open, just like some men fit the male stereotype of being tough, strong, emotionless and competitive. These differences can create barriers to good communication which is the leading cause of relationship conflicts, resulting in frustrations between partners. However, research has shown that only 30-40 percent of the population is represented by these stereotypes. The other 60-70 percent of the population is not accurately described by these gender stereotypes. Hmmm.

Not convinced? Consider same sex partnerships. Shouldn't they understand each other easily and have very few communication difficulties?

So if it isn't gender that accounts for most relationship challenges, what is it?

 

Way Beyond Gender

You guessed it... Personality type! So many of our differences can be attributed to personality type. We have different energy levels; structure our lives differently; gather information in different ways; and, make decisions using our unique styles. We move through the world in a way that is most comfortable for us. This might be similar or very distinctly different than our partner's approach. Our personalities are made up of fundamental characteristics that impact the way we interact and communicate in our relationships. It goes WAY beyond gender.

Rather than relying on gender stereotypes to explain our relationship challenges, personality type helps create a clearer picture of each individual and what their motivations are.

Is There a Perfect Personality Match For Me?

 

Are there personality combinations that will ensure a successful relationship? Are some types more naturally suited to each other? Can opposites stay together? You would think that if you shared the same personality type as your partner that your relationship would be a resounding, long-term success with both partners happily skipping off into the sunset together. Conversely, you might assume that having the opposite personality type to that of your partner, would  mean a relationship full of struggles and unhappiness. Interestingly, this may or may not be the case. Sometimes sharing the exact same personality type with your partner can present its own set of challenges in that both partners would have very similar strengths and very similar weaknesses. Bonding over the similarities is easy....covering the bases with shared weaknesses can be problematic.

Now What?

The bottom line is that understanding your personality type and the personality type of your partner, will give you a much better chance of creating a happy, successful relationship that provides both partners with what they need to feel fulfilled. It is also important to remember that any two people, regardless of their personality types can still have a great relationship. The key to success, is understanding one another. This is where an MBTI assessment becomes an invaluable tool.

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

info@thesdrc.com

www.integralhealthclinic.com

 

 

Be Who You Are and Do What You Love

Your Personality and Finding the Right Career

How Do I find the Best Career For Me?

The secret to career satisfaction lies in doing what you enjoy most. Many of us become stuck in jobs that we feel we ought to do, often as a result of well-intentioned, but misguided, advice from school counselors, parents, teachers and friends. There is a huge correlation between personality type and career satisfaction. As a general rule, the more aspects of your personality you match to your work environment, the more satisfied you’ll be with your career.

The right job enhances your life. It is fulfilling because it supports the most important aspects of your personality by letting you utilize your innate strengths in ways that come naturally to you, and rarely requires you to do things you don’t do well. Different jobs and in fact, different aspects of jobs, satisfy different types of people. You might be in the right field but the wrong end of it.

Since the right job is dependent on all the elements of your personality type, figuring out who you are and what ‘turns your crank’ is the first step. Recognizing and understanding your personality type can change the way you see yourself which in turn affects everything you do and every aspect of your life including career choices.

For over 50 years, career counsellors and human resource specialists have been using the Myers Briggs Type Indicator® personality tool to help individuals discover their innate gifts and possible blind spots so that they may seek out careers that will allow them to GO WITH THEIR STRENGTHS. If you are tired of swimming against the current and would like to find a job that is more in tune with your natural abilities, or if you have just started on a pathway to greater self-awareness, consider taking the MBTI personality assessment with Arlene.

Look for upcoming articles by Arlene Clark-Brown, MBTI Administrator, on: Career; Personality and Relationships; Personality and You; and Personality and Parenting.

To book an appointment with Arlene, contact:

info@thesdrc.com     613-837-9025

www.integralhealthclinic.com     613-241-0005